Brides to be take a bow – you’re amazing! I don’t know how you do it.

I started this blog for two reasons: (1) because I wanted to try and make life a bit easier for all the brides-to-be out there, and (2) because I wanted to put myself in my bride’s shoes, to get more of an understanding of what it’s like to plan and organize your own wedding.

At the time of starting this little project I was a full-time photographer with 9 years experience shooting weddings.  Having been to and photographed more than my fair share of weddings I thought I knew it all.  Boy was I wrong!

I have learnt more in the past two months about weddings and what it is like to plan one than I did in the past nine years!  And most of what I have learned has come straight from brides at “the coal-face” (so to speak).

In just two short months I have learned just how much work it takes to plan even a modest wedding and how over-whelming at times the whole thing can seem.

So this post is for all you brides-to-be out there busy planning and organizing every last detail of your big day.  I take my hat off to you – you ladies are amazing!

I thought I would share a tiny piece of my perspective on weddings to help keep you motivated and, more importantly, keep your sanity/sense of humour as the big day approaches…I hope you get something out of it.

Now, as you will be well aware by now, weddings can seem like a very serious business (as well as a hell of a lot of work).  However getting married is a really natural, beautiful part of life and, in my opinion, it is meant to be fun!  For this reason I think it’s important every now and again to take a step back, to take a breath and relax, and to make sure you enjoy the whole experience as much as you can.

There will be things on the wedding day or leading up to it that don’t go exactly as you had planned.  That’s life.  But often, in my experience, these little “challenges” that you face often end up being the bits you will treasure the most when you look back on your wedding day.

For example at one wedding I shot we were flying back to a helipad near the reception venue after doing some stunning bridal party location photos on a near-bye mountain top.  The bridal limo was meant to pick us up from the helipad and deliver us to the venue.

Long story short the limo driver got the address wrong and didn’t turn up.  After ringing them and finding out the limo would be some time we decided to walk along the road to the reception venue.

Luckily it was only a few minutes walk.  While we were walking along the roadside to the venue I got the bride and groom to pretend to hitchhike and got some great photos.  They loved the photos and that moment became one of the highlights of their wedding day.

So I guess the point is do the best you can planning and organizing your wedding day (I’m sure you will do an amazing job), but also remember to relax and enjoy it as much as you can (yes, it’s normal to be nervous!).

And remember that sometimes the things that you didn’t plan for can be the best bits – life’s like that sometimes!

Good luck with all the planning and preparation – whatever happens I know you’re going to have an amazing wedding day.   Remember to enjoy it as much as possible!

PS Here’s another link to a story about a wedding where the unexpected happened but the father of the bride took it in his stride.  Of if you’re feeling really brave (and possibly want to make yourself feel better – it would be difficult to have more things go wrong at your wedding than these poor brides) click here.

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Patrick Fallon

I am a wedding photographer based in beautiful Queenstown, New Zealand. I have been full-time with the photography thing since 2006 and still can’t believe I get to do what I love for a job! Here are a few words that I think sum me up: I AM…tall and bald, happy, imaginative, constantly hungry, active and friendly. I LOVE…my girl, coffee, photography, fooooooood, my family and friends, riding bikes, being outside, the simple things in life, people… I love my life! I believe that wedding photography can and should be SIMPLE, NATURAL, BEAUTIFUL.

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